Understanding. Support. Peace. Hope.
A place for people experiencing estrangement or cut off from their family to find support, hopefully peace, and some understanding.
SURVEYS!
UPDATE
I am also interested in the family patterns of estrangement. I have created a very short set of questions. Even if you have previously taken the main survey, I would appreciate your additional contribution to further our understanding of this issue. Please see the link below.
Click here to take the Parents Estranged from Adult Children survey now.
Click here to take the Adult Children Estranged from Parents survey now.
Click here to take the Family Patterns Survey now
Survey results as of 11/12/2009
Parent Survey Summary Report 11-12.pdf
Adult Children Survey Summary Report 11-12.pdf
Books
by Roberta M. Gilbert
The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement
by Jean M. Twenge Ph.D.
W. Keith Campbell Ph.D.
Healing from family rifts: Ten steps to finding peace after being cut off from a family member, by Mark Sichel, LCSW
When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don’t Get Along, by Joshua Coleman
I Thought We’d Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation, by Laura Davis
Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them, by Barbara Lebay
Letting Go of Our Adult Children: When What We Do Is Never Enough
by Arlene Harder
FRAGMENTED FAMILIES: Patterns of Estrangement and Reconciliation, by Ellen Sucov
Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents, by Jane Isay
For Mothers of Difficult Daughters; How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood, by Charney Herst
When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life, by Victoria Secunda
I'm OK, You're My Parents : How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works, by Dale Atkins
Making Peace with Your Parents, by Harold Bloomfield MD
Making Peace With Your Adult Children: A Guide to Family Healing, by Shauna Smith
Heal and Forgive II: The Journey from Abuse and Estrangement to Reconciliation, by Nancy Richards
Articles and Links
Have We Become a Nation of Narcissists? by Dr Ron Pies, MD
College students think they're so special
Study finds alarming rise in narcissism, self-centeredness in ‘Generation Me’
OverIndulging our Kids is a Hazard, Not a Gift
Take the Narcissistic Personality Inventory
Me, me, me! America’s ‘Narcissism Epidemic’
Authors say long-term consequences are destructive to society
The Price of Affluence
New research shows that privileged teens may be more self-centered—and depressed—than ever before.
By Amy Novotney
The High Cost of Avoiding Difficult Conversations
Lost Graces: Duty
Rev. Susan L. Van Dreser
“We need to restore the full meaning of that old word. It is the other side of rights.”
~Pearl S. Buck
Many boomers may face old age alone
By: Karen S. Peterson
Why are families growing apart?
Excerpted from Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them
By Barbara LeBey
Grow up, twenty-somethings. You can go home again
"I Haven't Spoken to My Parents In 8 Years" NYTimes Article by Lawrence Kutner
BOWEN THEORY
Treat your children, and your parents well USA Today
Therapists Find Last Outpost Of Adolescence In Adulthood
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Blog Posts
Need Support and Feedback
I had been trying to learn to accept that my daughter actually had decided to become estrange from me again for the second time. It has been about 4 months now. Before, it was 9 months during her 4th pregancy. We reunited this first time soon after she had her baby. All was going fine and good and was enjoying each other's company, in fact when she decided to b… Continue
Posted by Janie Marek on November 21, 2009 at 8:07pm — 1 Comment
Grandson #2 has apparently arrived.
It looks like my second grandchild came into the world on Monday.
I hope ED and her new son is in good health.
I will never know his name.
Or where he lives.
I will never see his first steps.
I will never see him, period.
I will never see his brother again.
I will never see their first days at school.
Or their first Little League hit.
Or their vacation trip.
Or their high school graduation days.
Or their college graduation days.
Or their wedding days.
E… Continue
Posted by PaulN on November 19, 2009 at 3:44pm — 13 Comments
Pocketful of Sunshine
I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.
Dawn
Posted by ForSakeofGranddaughter on November 18, 2009 at 2:59pm — 1 Comment
My song (with a few lyrics from others put together in a way that suits my story)
Silence is the steel now that pierces my heart and the cruelty rains down on me. I pray for rain....let the rain fill my eyes let the rain set me free....will she ever see me? Really really see me? See me as a person, someone who was onc… Continue
Posted by Cheli on November 18, 2009 at 2:18pm — 6 Comments
THIS TIME GOD, A MOUNTAIN
When she left to go visit her grandfather, I was to meet her in the city and go to the Market, and look around the city. As we had a heat wave I put off one day and she then cancelled another.
Then not… Continue
Posted by dawn lambie on November 18, 2009 at 6:29am — 15 Comments
Notes
Mission Statement
This site does not condone rudeness to anyone.
You may or may not agree, but I am interesting in promoting support, understanding of our situations, and hopefully this will help some heal. I realize that some need more time than others to progress, but with so many people on the site, in order to be effective, I believe that the best use of this site .... recognizing the selflessness of those who are willing to spend the time to read and respond... that the following is appropriate… Continue
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QUOTES TO REMEMBER
"The better you feel, the better chance you have of a life wihout her and actually the better chance you have of a life with her."
"Whether you think you can or think you can't, either way you are right" - Henry Ford
Even if you're on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there. - Will Rogers
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that is why it is called the present.
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