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Understanding. Support. Peace. Hope.
A place for people experiencing estrangement or cut off from their family to find support, hopefully peace, and some understanding.
Estranged Stories is now a non profit entity. We have applied for 501(c)3 status which will give Estranged Stories the opportunity to apply for grants, to partner in research and to provide resources for help. Updates soon!
SURVEYS
There is a completely confidential survey for Parents that are Estranged from their Adult Children and there is a a survey for Adult Children. I urge all of you to take the time to answer honestly! If there are ever going to be answers or help for this issue.. we need everyone's participation! Thank you in advance for your time!
UPDATE
I am also interested in the family patterns of estrangement. I have created a very short set of questions. Even if you have previously taken the main survey, I would appreciate your additional contribution to further our understanding of this issue. Please see the link below.
Take the Parents Estranged from Adult Children survey now.
Take the Adult Children Estranged from Parents survey now.
Take the Family Patterns Survey now
Survey results as of 04/25/2012
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Books
Connecting With Our Children : Guiding Principles for Parents in a Troubled World
The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement
Too Much of a Good Thing: Raising Children of Character in an Indulgent Age
Healing From Family Rifts : Ten Steps to Finding Peace After Being Cut Off From a Family Member
When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along
I Thought We'd Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation
Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them
Letting Go of Our Adult Children: When What We Do Is Never Enough
FRAGMENTED FAMILIES: Patterns of Estrangement and Reconciliation
Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents, by Jane Isay
For Mothers of Difficult Daughters; How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood, by Charney Herst
When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life, by Victoria Secunda
I'm OK, You're My Parents : How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works, by Dale Atkins
Making Peace with Your Parents, by Harold Bloomfield MD
Making Peace With Your Adult Children: A Guide to Family Healing, by Shauna Smith
Forgive Your Parents, Heal Yourself: How Understanding Your Painful Family Legacy Can Transform Your Life
Everything Has Two Handles: The Stoic's Guide to the Art of Living
Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives
Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions
Articles and Links
How to be a Grown Up Even Around Your Own Parents
By Dr Frank Pittman
The Feuds Tearing Our Families Apart
Therapists Find Last Outpost of Adolescence in Adulthood, NY Times, 1988
Have We Become a Nation of Narcissists? by Dr Ron Pies, MD
College students think they're so special
Study finds alarming rise in narcissism, self-centeredness in ‘Generation Me’
OverIndulging our Kids is a Hazard, Not a Gift
Take the Narcissistic Personality Inventory
Me, me, me! America’s ‘Narcissism Epidemic’
Authors say long-term consequences are destructive to society
The Price of Affluence
New research shows that privileged teens may be more self-centered—and depressed—than ever before. By Amy Novotney
The High Cost of Avoiding Difficult Conversations
Lost Graces: Duty Rev. Susan L. Van Dreser “We need to restore the full meaning of that old word. It is the other side of rights.”
~Pearl S. Buck
Many boomers may face old age alone
By: Karen S. Peterson
Why are families growing apart?
Excerpted from Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them By Barbara LeBey
Grow up, twenty-somethings. You can go home again
"I Haven't Spoken to My Parents In 8 Years" NYTimes Article by Lawrence Kutner
BOWEN THEORY
Treat your children, and your parents well USA Today
Therapists Find Last Outpost Of Adolescence In Adulthood
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Mission Statement
This site does not condone rudeness to anyone.
You may or may not agree, but I am interested in promoting support, understanding of our situations, and hopefully this will help some heal. I realize that some need more time than others to progress, but with so many people on the site, in order to be effective, I believe that the best use of this site .... recognizing the selflessness of those who are willing to spend the time to read and respond... that the following is appropriate when…
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Quotes To Remember
"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending."
"The better you feel, the better chance you have of a life without her and actually the better chance you have of a life with her."
"Whether you think you can or think you can't, either way you are right" - Henry Ford
Even if you're on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there. - Will… Continue
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Disclaimer
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