Estranged Stories

Understanding. Support. Peace. Hope.

A place for people experiencing estrangement or cut off from their family to find support, hopefully peace, and some understanding.

Estranged Stories is now a non profit entity. We have received our 501(c)3 status so any donations to Estranged Stories are tax deductable. We now have the ability to apply for grants, to partner in research and to provide resources for help.

AS SOME OF YOU KNOW --- I AM CURRENTLY WORKING ON A DOCUMENTARY OUTLINING THE ISSUE OF ESTRANGEMENT.  I HAVE INTERVIEWED SOME TOP FAMILY SYSTEMS THERAPISTS (EXCERPTS ARE POSTED IN THE VIDEO SECTION) AND I HAVE INTERVIEWED A NUMBER OF PARENTS.  I WOULD STILL LIKE TO INTERVIEW MORE PARENTS.  I AM NOT INTERESTED IN DISCUSSING THE INTRICATE DETAILS OF YOUR ESTRANGEMENT, IT'S MORE ABOUT THE BIG PICTURE.  WHO IT'S HURTING, HOW IT'S HURTING AND WHY YOU THINK IT COULD HAPPEN.  IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN PARTICIPATING... PLEASE MESSAGE ME!  I AM MOST HOPEFUL FOR EAST COAST PARTICIPANTS FIRST... THANKS SO MUCH! LOST2

 

SURVEYS
There is a completely confidential survey for Parents that are Estranged from their Adult Children and there is a a survey for Adult Children. I urge all of you to take the time to answer honestly! If there are ever going to be answers or help for this issue.. we need everyone's participation! Thank you in advance for your time!
UPDATE
I am also interested in the family patterns of estrangement. I have created a very short set of questions. Even if you have previously taken the main survey, I would appreciate your additional contribution to further our understanding of this issue. Please see the link below.

Take the Parents Estranged from Adult Children survey now.
Take the Adult Children Estranged from Parents survey now.
Take the Family Patterns Survey now

Survey results as of 04/25/2012

Parent survey 04_25.pdf

Adult children 04_25.pdf

Generation Survey 05_8_12.pdf

PRIVACY NOTE

The Material on this site is for the express personal use of approved members.
Any words written or original videos posted may NOT be duplicated without written consent.
The Material on this site is not available for research ideas, books, TV Casting, etc.
Any questions concerning the use of this site.. please contact site creator.

Members

Books

Nobody Home: A Memoir

Childhood Unbound: The Powerful New Parenting Approach That Gives Our 21st Century Kids the Authority, Love, and Listening They Need to Thrive

 

Connecting With Our Children : Guiding Principles for Parents in a Troubled World

The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement

Too Much of a Good Thing: Raising Children of Character in an Indulgent Age

Healing From Family Rifts : Ten Steps to Finding Peace After Being Cut Off From a Family Member

When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along


I Thought We'd Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation


Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them


Letting Go of Our Adult Children: When What We Do Is Never Enough


FRAGMENTED FAMILIES: Patterns of Estrangement and Reconciliation


Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents, by Jane Isay

For Mothers of Difficult Daughters; How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood, by Charney Herst

When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life, by Victoria Secunda

I'm OK, You're My Parents : How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works, by Dale Atkins

Making Peace with Your Parents, by Harold Bloomfield MD

Making Peace With Your Adult Children: A Guide to Family Healing, by Shauna Smith

Forgive Your Parents, Heal Yourself: How Understanding Your Painful Family Legacy Can Transform Your Life

Everything Has Two Handles: The Stoic's Guide to the Art of Living

Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives

Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions

 

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This site does not condone rudeness to anyone.

You may or may not agree, but I am interested in promoting support, understanding of our situations, and hopefully this will help some heal.  I realize that some need more time than others to progress, but with so many people on the site, in order to be effective, I believe that the best use of this site .... recognizing the selflessness of those who are willing to spend the time to read and respond... that the following is appropriate when…

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Created by Lost2 Nov 6, 2009 at 6:28pm. Last updated by Lost2 Sep 10, 2012.

Quotes To Remember

"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending."



"The better you feel, the better chance you have of a life without her and actually the better chance you have of a life with her."



"Whether you think you can or think you can't, either way you are right" - Henry Ford



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Created by Lost2 Oct 10, 2009 at 3:23pm. Last updated by Lost2 Oct 10, 2009.

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CHANGES COMING!!!

To all Members --

In the next few weeks we are going to be changing our platform here.  We are going to move over to a new version of the site that will have some new features. 

I will no longer be asking for donations, but there will be a very minimal yearly charge to join the group.  (Those that have donated this year will be "grandfathered!"

You will receive an email with instructions when the time comes -- I think the new site will be easier to navigate and we will be able to provide more help options. 

The hope is that the new site will be completely operational by July 1, 2014.

Thanks so much to you all!

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