Estranged Stories

Understanding. Support. Peace. Hope.

A place for people experiencing estrangement or cut off from their family to find support, hopefully peace, and some understanding.

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SURVEYS
There is a completely confidential survey for Parents that are Estranged from their Adult Children and there is a a survey for Adult Children. I urge all of you to take the time to answer honestly! If there are ever going to be answers or help for this issue.. we need everyone's participation! Thank you in advance for your time!
UPDATE
I am also interested in the family patterns of estrangement. I have created a very short set of questions. Even if you have previously taken the main survey, I would appreciate your additional contribution to further our understanding of this issue. Please see the link below.

Take the Parents Estranged from Adult Children survey now.
Take the Adult Children Estranged from Parents survey now.
Take the Family Patterns Survey now

Survey results as of 04/25/2012

Parent survey 04_25.pdf

Adult children 04_25.pdf

Generation Survey 05_8_12.pdf

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Members

Books

Childhood Unbound: The Powerful New Parenting Approach That Gives Our 21st Century Kids the Authority, Love, and Listening They Need to Thrive

 

Connecting With Our Children : Guiding Principles for Parents in a Troubled World

The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement

Too Much of a Good Thing: Raising Children of Character in an Indulgent Age

Healing From Family Rifts : Ten Steps to Finding Peace After Being Cut Off From a Family Member

When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along


I Thought We'd Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation


Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them


Letting Go of Our Adult Children: When What We Do Is Never Enough


FRAGMENTED FAMILIES: Patterns of Estrangement and Reconciliation


Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents, by Jane Isay

For Mothers of Difficult Daughters; How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood, by Charney Herst

When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life, by Victoria Secunda

I'm OK, You're My Parents : How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works, by Dale Atkins

Making Peace with Your Parents, by Harold Bloomfield MD

Making Peace With Your Adult Children: A Guide to Family Healing, by Shauna Smith

Forgive Your Parents, Heal Yourself: How Understanding Your Painful Family Legacy Can Transform Your Life

Everything Has Two Handles: The Stoic's Guide to the Art of Living

Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives

Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions

 

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Bobie Roso replied to M2Chicago's discussion I see no answers on the Parents of Estranged Children
"MY ES does not interactive with anyone in our family.  The few times in the last couple of…"
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Doris Johnson left a comment for Julie Martinez
"Julie...Your daughter is preparing for WHEN you become incapable of caring for yourself?? Wow!! I…"
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A. J. replied to Dot's discussion Is Society Changing? in the group Resolutions and Reconciliations
"Hi K, I don't think any of my kids have a disorder other than they only think about…"
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Marcianne replied to M2Chicago's discussion I see no answers on the Parents of Estranged Children
"I have often felt that EDs cling to their stepmothers to gain the attention and relationship with…"
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Carol Burkhead replied to M2Chicago's discussion I see no answers on the Parents of Estranged Children
"M2Chicago I know the pain and feelings of betrayal you are experiencing. My ED for 6 years has been…"
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Marcianne replied to M2Chicago's discussion I see no answers on the Parents of Estranged Children
" "Sometimes I think I could handle the death of my son and DIL eventually better than the…"
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Marcianne replied to M2Chicago's discussion I see no answers on the Parents of Estranged Children
"I think holding our heads high in this time of disappointment from our children may teach them a…"
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Ann replied to M2Chicago's discussion I see no answers on the Parents of Estranged Children
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Forum

I see no answers on the Parents of Estranged Children 13 Replies

Started by M2Chicago in Parents Estranged from Children. Last reply by Bobie Roso 14 minutes ago.

I am tired of being blamed.... 21 Replies

Started by Mary Kelly in Parents Estranged from Children. Last reply by Mary Kelly 8 hours ago.

Memorial Day 1 Reply

Started by Bobie Roso in Parents Estranged from Children. Last reply by Judy W 12 hours ago.

Blog Posts

Is It Just Me? or Do Reading these blogs make you cry?

To Julie Martinez

Julie, I don't think it is that we were such "bad" mothers, but rather that our children were going thru a time when they were very much influenced by Media (TV).  I remember after WWII that the advertisements on TV showed how stupid(?)men were.  Why, a husband couldn't even put clothes in a wash machine or use the right soap! The TV ads had all kinds of put-downs about men and how inefficient they were.  This was in the 60s.  Then, came the 70s, and that's when I…

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Posted by Eva on May 26, 2012 at 5:58pm — 1 Comment

Another holiday...

Well, I know Memorial Day is more about remembering the soldiers that gave us the freedom to even BE in this group and believe me, I do honor them as I am married to a retired Chief who served for 24 year in the Navy. However, Memorial Day for me is also now a day that I remember that my son is gone, angry because I loved him and cared enough to set boundaries. …

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Posted by Sue P on May 25, 2012 at 11:49am — 3 Comments

IS IT JUST ME? OR DO READING THESE BLOGS MAKE YOU CRY?

I have been extremely lucky to have heard of this site through AARP and I Posted two blogs. The last being "My daughter is finally reaching out" But I jumped the gun and she never did. I felt so embarrassed and hurt at having been set up for a reconcilliation. I've tried to read blogs from others but it just makes me more depressed that any of us are going through this. Where did we all go wrong? Were'nt we supposed to give our children a better life than we had and they were supposed to be…

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Posted by Julie Martinez on May 21, 2012 at 6:24pm — 11 Comments

Be a Blessing

Someone in a posting touched on this and I want to elaborate, but I am not sure how to say it...The posting suggested to start a box of "gifts" for a needy child and give at Christmas (and what about those that need winter clothes?), another suggested providing baby needs for a needy new mom.  Outstanding ideas.  Build on those ideas!  Like: tutor elementary children, volunteer to read to children at the library -- seek out what your community's children need.

Volunteer to visit with…

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Posted by k mitchell on May 21, 2012 at 3:20pm — 9 Comments

What to do , What to do

I think estranged children are becoming more widespread in our country.I used to think It was me until I started looking around and couldn't believe the amount of parents who had children who disrespected them, abused them, withheld the grandchildren and in general just 'walked out' of their lives. My story for today...... I have a sister in law who had only one child, a son. Great kid, good son, raised completely doted on. My brother saw to it he was in sports, fished with him, to name a…

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Posted by janie on May 21, 2012 at 11:58am — 3 Comments

Notes

Quotes To Remember

"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending."



"The better you feel, the better chance you have of a life without her and actually the better chance you have of a life with her."



"Whether you think you can or think you can't, either way you are right" - Henry Ford



Even if you're on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there. - Will… Continue

Created by Lost2 Apr 19, 2010 at 5:49pm. Last updated by Lost2 Apr 19, 2010.

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You may or may not agree, but I am interesting in promoting support, understanding of our situations, and hopefully this will help some heal.  I realize that some need more time than others to progress, but with so many people on the site, in order to be effective, I believe that the best use of this site .... recognizing the selflessness of those who are willing to spend the time to read and respond... that the following is appropriate… Continue

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