Estranged Stories

Understanding. Support. Peace. Hope.

A place for people experiencing estrangement or cut off from their family to find support, hopefully peace, and some understanding.

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SURVEYS
There is a completely confidential survey for Parents that are Estranged from their Adult Children and there is a a survey for Adult Children. I urge all of you to take the time to answer honestly! If there are ever going to be answers or help for this issue.. we need everyone's participation! Thank you in advance for your time!
UPDATE
I am also interested in the family patterns of estrangement. I have created a very short set of questions. Even if you have previously taken the main survey, I would appreciate your additional contribution to further our understanding of this issue. Please see the link below.

Take the Parents Estranged from Adult Children survey now.
Take the Adult Children Estranged from Parents survey now.
Take the Family Patterns Survey now

Survey results as of 04/19/2011
Parents Survery Summary Report 4-2011
Adult Children Survey Summary Report 4-2011

PRIVACY NOTE

The Material on this site is for the express personal use of approved members.
Any words written or original videos posted may NOT be duplicated without written consent.
The Material on this site is not available for research ideas, books, TV Casting, etc.
Any questions concerning the use of this site.. please contact site creator.

Members

  • Jennifer Manzle
  • ginger albright
  • Barb
  • Lost2
  • Tami
  • Melissa
  • Pam
  • Carole Cat
  • Janice Mancinelli Sapp
  • pudding
  • lin
  • Jo
  • britta
  • Kathysblue
  • Nancy
  • Laney

Books

Childhood Unbound: The Powerful New Parenting Approach That Gives Our 21st Century Kids the Authority, Love, and Listening They Need to Thrive

 

Connecting With Our Children : Guiding Principles for Parents in a Troubled World

The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement

Too Much of a Good Thing: Raising Children of Character in an Indulgent Age

Healing From Family Rifts : Ten Steps to Finding Peace After Being Cut Off From a Family Member

When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along


I Thought We'd Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation


Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them


Letting Go of Our Adult Children: When What We Do Is Never Enough


FRAGMENTED FAMILIES: Patterns of Estrangement and Reconciliation


Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents, by Jane Isay

For Mothers of Difficult Daughters; How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood, by Charney Herst

When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life, by Victoria Secunda

I'm OK, You're My Parents : How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works, by Dale Atkins

Making Peace with Your Parents, by Harold Bloomfield MD

Making Peace With Your Adult Children: A Guide to Family Healing, by Shauna Smith

Forgive Your Parents, Heal Yourself: How Understanding Your Painful Family Legacy Can Transform Your Life

Everything Has Two Handles: The Stoic's Guide to the Art of Living

Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives

Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions

 

Latest Activity

Forum

nina

i did it? 9 Replies

Started by nina in Parents Estranged from Children. Last reply by Tami 8 hours ago.

Lost2

Something very sad... 8 Replies

Started by Lost2 in Parents Estranged from Children. Last reply by Siobhan on Friday.

Lost2

An astounding book... 2 Replies

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Pam

Are Parents Obsolete? 2 Replies

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Lost2

OMG.. another .. sorry! 4 Replies

Started by Lost2 in Parents Estranged from Children. Last reply by Tami Jan 15.

Blog Posts

nina

RECONCILED!!!!!!!!!

when i gather my thoughts, i will write all about it.  for now, let me just say, NEVER, EVER, EVER give up hope!

Posted by nina on January 26, 2012 at 10:35am — 6 Comments

Susan Stephens

thank you all!!!

for welcoming me back it truly makes it feel good I have been so down but I know that is not healthy. I can see and tell there are some very good hearted people that have wound up in the same situation as me.   While I  have no clue why my son quit talking to me the time has reached an insane amount now at almost 6 years.Going forward I try to remain positive and I wish you all peace and I hope that better days are in store for all of us that suffer this heartbreaking pain. Here's to a good…

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Posted by Susan Stephens on January 6, 2012 at 4:59pm — 3 Comments

Susan Stephens

I am back

 Here I am back after a long time away. My situation hasn't changed with my ES. I guess I try to not think about it and I know the site can be helpful. Reality is, it has been 6 years in March, since my son spoke to me. His life has gone on and they had a baby boy who will be 1 this month. I have  seen pictures but never have seen him. I am beginning to think that things will never change, as I have hoped and prayed and they remain the…

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Posted by Susan Stephens on January 4, 2012 at 12:00am — 6 Comments

britta

Our baby arrived Dec 30th, safe, sound and dearly loved

I'm very tired, but wanted to check in here with you dear ladies as I know you have carried me a lot emotionally with carrying this child as well as carrying the heartbreak over two adult children lost to estrangement.

Our son arrived on December 30th.  The labor was intensive as was the delivery.  I lost a lot of blood, and apparently 24 hours later still had things remaining in me after the birth (there is a debate on whether it was placenta (I had an abruption just after he…

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Posted by britta on January 2, 2012 at 12:12pm — 12 Comments

LauraDenise

I let go today

After 7 years of serial estranging from my 23 year old son, I'm done.

This 4th estrangement came about at the end of his Summer visit to Ky...just as he was reporting for duty to be stationed in Pearl Harbor HI in the Navy.

I think of "gaslighting" as doing whatever it takes to force a conflict.... which in our case is to dog out my younger son who is only 10.  I desperately tried to avoid the fight...which was a texting war, to no avail.  He got what he wanted, and left for…

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Posted by LauraDenise on December 31, 2011 at 6:18pm — 4 Comments

Notes

Quotes To Remember

"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending."



"The better you feel, the better chance you have of a life without her and actually the better chance you have of a life with her."



"Whether you think you can or think you can't, either way you are right" - Henry Ford



Even if you're on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there. - Will… Continue

Created by Lost2 Apr 19, 2010 at 5:49pm. Last updated by Lost2 Apr 19, 2010.

Mission Statement

This site does not condone rudeness to anyone. 



You may or may not agree, but I am interesting in promoting support, understanding of our situations, and hopefully this will help some heal.  I realize that some need more time than others to progress, but with so many people on the site, in order to be effective, I believe that the best use of this site .... recognizing the selflessness of those who are willing to spend the time to read and respond... that the following is appropriate… Continue

Created by Lost2 Nov 6, 2009 at 6:28pm. Last updated by Lost2 Nov 6, 2009.

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